Fighting with my mother...advice?

i'm 19. I'm single. my mom doesnt like that idea....she wants me to go find a girl and get married or something. well, she wont talk to me. its been about a month and she said she refuses to talk to me until I get a girl?





what can I do?Fighting with my mother...advice?
So you are being FORCED to get a G/F? Why? Are you mooching off of mom? Do you still live at home? If so, are you working and/or going to College? How do you contribute to the family? Answer these questions and I as A Mom will be better able to help you.





Edit: If you are living at home and paying your way through College and you don't have a G/F...that is a GOOD thing in my book as a mom. Sounds to me as though you have your priorities straight. IF a G/F comes along then so be it...the right girl hasn't crossed your path just yet and Mom needs to back-off. Are you from an Italian,Greek or Jewish Family? Sometimes those Nationalities are more eager for a boy to ';Prove'; his ';Manhood'; by having a G/F and/or Wife early on. Sounds as though she has an Old-world THOUGHT PROCESS....Say to her Mom, I really love you (that gets a Mom EVERY time) but can we talk about what my life plans are...then sit her down and explain...you want to show responsibility and maturity before getting into a serious relationship...lay out your Goals and Life-Plan for her...I hope she is reasonable enough to listen and Respect you for the responsible Young-Man you are. In MY book you are to be Commended..Best of Luck Honey~~Aloha~~Michelle~~Fighting with my mother...advice?
Thats a pretty petty reason for your mom to stop talking to you for. Life is too short and she should respect your wishes to not be in a relationship now if you dont want one. Your mom cant pick and choose who the girl is you will marry you have to find the right woman for you and your mom should know that you just cant rush into marriage like that. If she continues to not talk for that reason I would really let her know how I feel thats crazy but dont let her rush you. Dont be shocked when you find a girl if she finds something else to complain about. Good Luck and live your own life
If your mom is that deranged, you are probably better off not talking to her.





You should probably call her and tell her that you are fine being a bachelor, as at 19 you are still young, you don't need a girl right now, and you have other things going on in life. If she is going to be so petty, then you will let her call you, but otherwise you are perfectly happy on your own now, and you would hope that she would be happy that you aren't out knocking up a girl or fooling around when you are just becoming a true adult.
I suggest it is about time that you find your own place. I wouldn't say this if your mother was not trying to control your life (as mine did when I was younger). Or you can sit down with her and tell her that you will get a girlfriend when you meet somebody you really want to get to know better, and not before. Also if you are gay, then tell her now. That would stop the ';finding a girlfriend'; or else threat. If you are NOT gay, then tell her you are (smile) that will at least stop the girlfriend thing.





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You are 19? Plz confirm your age. Because 19 is too young to get married in today's standards. It was ok in the old days because life was easier.





Marraige is something that needs a lot of commitment, understanding and time. Its not a one day issue.





I don't understand why your mother doesn't understand that.





And to get married, you need to get settled first. Make her understand that. Or else, get the help of other people close to you. I am sure they understand that.





EDIT: Finish college, get a girl, hope for the best, get a job, develop your career, get married, live happily ever after. Always be good to your mother and take care of her no matter how bad she maybe to you.
For one, its not up to your mom when you get married. and two you're only 19 most people don't get married and end up staying married till their 28+. Just tell her if she rushes things you'll end up in a bad relationship and that's not what you or she wants.
Your mom needs counseling.





This type of emotional abuse is unacceptable.


She's not going to approve of any girl you meet, get used to that idea!





She's trying to manipulate and control you.


Don't let her do it.


Stand up for yourself.
Leave a message that when she can communicate in an adult manner instead of forcing her views on you and can respect your decisions she can make contact with you again. Until then not talking to you is a good idea.
thats the trouble with the younger generation,they dont care how hard their parents worked to bring them up,now they want thier parents to support them after they are grown. they want to use thir mony to have a good time and let mom do their meals and wash.
Yeah, %26amp; when you DO find a girl, %26amp; bring her home your mom will probably HATE HER!





The only way you can win on this one is to work to your own timetable, %26amp; find a girl who pleases YOU!
just tell her you looking for someone but not that someone. she will come in time and your mom should understand that you cant make that happen
maybe your mom thinks you are gay and wants to be sure?????Maybe you two need to talk about things!!!
tell one of your girl friends to dress up like a ho and bring her home to momma!!
Well 1st of all do u want to be in a relationship? and second of all u make the choice cuz ur an dult.


She's just being stubborn.
You are an adult, make your own decisions. I'm not saying blow your mom off, but you have to assert yourself. Be nice to your mom, you only have one, but if she is pressuring you to get married just for the sake of being married, that isn't right. Not at all. If she truly loves you she will let you find your own love, if, and when it is right for you. Pushing you to get married when you're not ready is a recipe for disaster. You could end up in a bad marriage, way too young, and maybe a couple of kids thrown in just to complicate things even further. Don't do it man! Do not get married just to please your mom. I think 19 is too young for anyone to get married anyway. Get a few more years and a little more experience under your belt. If your mother doesn't understand that, then she is the one with the problem, IMHO.


I had a lot of friction beetween my wife and my mom, I just stopped coming over, or calling until she toned it down a little. Marriage is not a game to go into lightly. When she realizes she might lose the affection of her son, she will probably come around to a more reasonable point of view, mine did.


Other than that there is not much I can do to help you brother, good luck.


Scott





Edit : I tried to get this in when you had 0 answers, then I got interupted. By the time I got back, you already had tons of good advice. I just reinforced what everyone else said, listen to that advice, listen to me!