I'm gonna be a 15 year old mother. Advice?

Well my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex. We know now that we're going to have a baby. We both know we have to get jobs and support the baby. And we both know where the baby will live and we are prepared to do whatever it takes to keep this baby healthy and loved. I need advice from people who have had children whether your a teen mother/father or if you had a baby when you were an adult.





Here are some general questions you can go around:


What can I do during my pregnancy to keep my baby healthy?


What kind of stuff do new born babies eat besides breast milk?


What should I do during my pregnancy to make sure I stay healthy too?


How do we decide on a name?


What kind of things do me and my boyfriend need to discuss about the baby and the pregnancy?





If you have any advice and any other pieces of useful information, I accept all helpful, insightful answers. Please do not be rude. I know what I did was a wrong thing. We should have been protected. We know we've done something wrong and we are fully prepared to face the consequences.





Thank You,


AL and TJI'm gonna be a 15 year old mother. Advice?
1. Take your vitamins. No drugs, drinking, smoking, or unprotected sex (with anyone other than your partner..) Don't run any marathons - over-doing exercise during prego can lead to problems. Try not to gain too much weight.


2. Formula. No solids 'till at least 3 months, normally. Cereals at first - rice, then oat, etc. Then fruits. Then veggies. Then juices, later..


3. Same as number one.


4. Invest in baby name books. I chose a mix of Biblical and Gaelic..


5. What SHOULDN'T you discuss? EVERYTHING! From the birth, hospital stay, care giving during it's infancy, child rearing, careers, etc.. The list goes on...





You both should be applauded for willingly going through this most scary and important event in your lives. You're both very brave, and seem like you're ready to try and become responsible, loving parents. Don't feel ashamed of what you've done.. what's happened... embrace it. You're about to experience the miracle of birth, and of the most strongest love and bond in the world - that of maternity. Don't forget that. It doesn't matter what your ages, as long as you can embrace it.





This will be one of the hardest times in your lives - prepare yourselves, emotionally, physically, mentally. If you get through this you've accomplished a lot...





Don't be afraid to seek help when you need it. When that baby comes, it's gonna be non-stop drudgery for the first few months, at least. Accept all offers, and seek help when you must. Don't underestimate what even a few hours ';away'; can do for yourself - take it..





Be ready - as ready as one can be - for the unexpected. My first pregnancy ended in an emergency c-section, and i was devastated. I had never been in a hospital before, let alone put under the knife. The experience left me in a state of shock during a time when i should've been able to concentrate entirely on my new baby.. try to consider the worst case scenarios, and then thank God (if that's what you do) when they don't happen... I wish i could've been better prepared, mentally, for that one, but i thought at the time that everything would be perfect...





Having a baby is an entire LIFESTYLE SHIFT. Don't expect anything to ever be the same. Your life will change on most, if not all, levels. Depending on your acceptance of this change will determine how stressful it is for you. If you find it's like ';culture shock';, it's gonna be a million times harder. If you can actually embrace these changes, then maybe you might stand a chance of not losing your marbles, like i feel i did... You'll see what i mean, after you bring that baby home..! The good news is, you do eventually work through it, work your way into a system, and after a while some semblance of control and routine will be gained...





Expect to see the worst of your spouse/boyfriend. The beginning months/years of child rearing are so very trying and stressful, they really are. They wreak havoc on a relationship, and the worst of both people can be brought out. You'll need lots of help and support from him, more than you might realize, and if he falls short of fulfilling that, you're going to be left with major resentment towards him..





If you haven't yet purchased these books, hurry up and do so. They're really good reading, and are a ';must';...





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Above all, learn all you can. Have a baby shower - you'll need it, trust me. Seek support. Expect the unexpected. Try to embrace this strange new experience. Enjoy your baby while you can - it's easy to get lost in the day to day care and forget that you're allowed to ';enjoy'; them.. Take pictures. Plan ahead. Don't beat yourself up over everything (this is a big one..) - you're first time parents, and you WILL NOT know instinctively what to do! You will have to LEARN what to do, mistakes, triumphs, and all...! Don't worry about your mistakes.. a million mothers came before you who did all kinds of things to their babies and they all survived.. Yours will too. Love that little bundle of joy with all your heart, and guard it with every fiber of your being... there are too many bad people and things that can happen in this world. Keep your children close, don't let them out of your sight. Take with a grain of salt all that your forbearers will tell you to do - their's is from the old-school ways, and times have changed. Don't allow them to push you into their old ways if you don't feel comfortable with it. Get the best pediatrician you can find and ask lots of questions.





Again, don't apologize to the world for what you've done - you don't owe the world an apology - you owe your child a good life. Redirect your priorities to your baby. Who cares about the world...? You're already half way there. You're doing good. Don't stop now. Just keep on doing what you're doing.. You're about to be wonderful parents...





Good luck to you both!I'm gonna be a 15 year old mother. Advice?
Get medicaid (insurance through the government) and seek prenatal care. You will get akll the info and books you need. Hurry up and get it to ensure a healthy pregnancy. Contact your local department of social services to get the ball rolling. You are an emancipted minor because of the pregnancy, so you dont need your parents permission for anything.
well first of all i don't support this, but i will say i hope that you going thru this experience will be good. maybe you can reach out to other young children (cuz you are still children). and maybe they won't want to go thru the same thing.





anyways. you can't survive financially on a mcdonalds paycheck or any paycheck that starts you around minimum wage. go to the store. look at diapers. the cost. and ask people how many you will go thru. its gna blow your mind.





next. childcare. you can't depend on family all the time. sheer fact its not their responsibility. you may have to pay someone. and its not nice to leave mom and dad with your child when you are at school and work. because you DO have to do both.





go to school then straight to work.








eat healthy food. go to your doctor appointments, exercise and take your prenatal vitamins.





you don't have to breast feed. but i suggest it, its increases the babys immune system and creates a bond. between mom and baby.





try to pick a unique name. something special. think about it hard. don't settle. and if you think you like it. say the name(full name) alot. just to make sure its something you will always want to say.





you will have alot of needles stuck in you. you will if not already have morning sickness(which isn't always just in the morning) if you can't eat anything, at all, and you are dehydrated. go to the er. and get an iv.





be a role model for kids like you, make sure they know exactly how it is. so it doesn't happen to them. cuz it will be hard. good luck
Whats done is done now, so don't dwell on the past. It sounds like you two have pretty good heads on your shoulders so far. Eating healthy food and giving into cravings during your pregnancy will help keep you healthy, the cravings somtimes are your bodys way of saying you need more of this or that. Being active, walking and excercising but not overduing it will help keep you fit. Avoid uncooked processed meats aka bologna hotdogs hamburger make sure they are cooked. For the name pick somthing you and your bf both agree on. Take your prenatials and visit the dr regulerly. There is WIC that can help provide you with milk and other things you need during your pregnancy and breastfeeding if you breast feed. If you don't breastfeed they help you get formula for your child. good luck!
First off I would like you congratulate you on being responsible to keep your baby. The first thing I would say to do is to make sure you have a support system, family and friends will be a huge help. Find a doctor and make sure you keep your appointments and take your vitamins. Try to have a healthy lifestyle and take time to rest.





Babies drink breast milk or formula (you can sign up for free samples) only for a few months and as they get older you can add rice cereal, and then baby food. Your doctor will tell you when you can start adding the solid foods like the cereal and baby foods.





Discuss names with your boyfriend and consider taking a birthing class together or parenting class. Most hospitals offer them for free. Good luck.
Well first off congrats on the baby :)





Eat healthy and take your vitamins every day. Your OB should have given you some prenatal vitamins to take or you can take something over the counter like one-a-days. Exercise on a moderate level will also keep your body healthy and will make you have an easier labor when the big day comes. Stay away from fast foods, caffeine, a lot of fish and the obvious things like smoking and alcohol.





Besides breast milk babies eat formula. You can get a powder formula and mix it with water or a liquid formula. How and what you want to feed your baby is purely your decision and you'll need to look into the benefits of both breast feeding and bottle feeding to decide what you want to do.





Basically all of the things in the first paragraph go for you and your baby's health :)





A name is a difficult task. You and your bf need to sit down and discuss what names you like/dislike. This is also another thing that is purely your decision. You can chose to do a family name or make up something new. Its all up to you. My bf and I bought a baby naming book. We both went through it on our own time and highlighted names that we liked. I used yellow highlighter and he used orange. The ones that we both agreed on we put on a list then we narrowed it down from there. There are also lots of websites that are very helpful as well. Type ';baby names'; or something like that into google and there should be tons of things.





Money, Jobs, Daycare, Insurance, Circumcision (If it is a boy), Medication during labor Vs. Natural labor and things like that are very good things to talk about. I'd suggest taking a pregnancy and parenting class before your baby is born. My bf and I did and it opened our eyes to a lot of things we didn't even think about and it really helped me feel prepared for labor.





Also- if your parents don't know yet I'd suggest making that your first step. Your parents are going to be your rock!





Last thing- A very important thing to figure out is where the baby is going to stay while you are in school. Finishing school may seem hard, but its going to be the best thing for you and your baby in the long run.





Best of luck to you!!!
1. Make sure to take your prenatal vitamins and a calcium supplement everyday! Your body gives all the nutrients to your baby first and you get the left overs. My dentist said that it is very common for pregnant women to lose teeth or get cavities during pregnancy. Make sure that you eat right as well. Everything you eat so does the baby.


2. Well baby food but that is not for a while honestly...


3. Go to your doctors visits. They are very important. You can also walk and swim!!!


4. Just choose a name... make a list both of you and then compare... eventually you will just know which name is right for your baby. I will say though you do not have to name your baby immediately. I waited till I saw my daughter before I named her.


5. Basically housing and money.





I do recommend finding a pediatrician before you have your baby too, so they can come check your baby out at the hospital rather than just having the on staff one do it.





Also, having a baby is hard... and I am not preaching. I had a baby 18 days ago... and sleep is a luxury, so make sure while you are pregnant that you relax and get as much sleep as possible. I will say though I never mind waking up with my baby no matter how much or how little sleep I get. You love them so much it all seems so trivial! Good luck!
I must say that im quite proud of how mature you are being about all of this. Im not going to lie its going to be quite hard!! a good thing to get is a book called ';what to expect when you're expecting'; it can be found in almost any book store. it will give you week by week information about what your body is going through and what to expect throughout your pregnancy. have you talked to your mom and dad yet? if not that something that really needs to be talked about also you need to start taking prenatal vitamins, you can find them at Walgreen's, don't mess around with the expensive ones, the generic brand has the same stuff in it! while you are pregnant it is a good idea to eat very healthy. lots a fruits and veggies and protein. you have to remember everything that goes in your mouth goes right to the baby so no drinking or smoking what so ever ok? another thing you really need to go see the doctor, your mom will be able to help you with that, they will do an ultrasound of the baby to make sure everything is ok! good luck with everything. if you have any more questions you can email me at daisiesinmyheart@live.com with anything you might need to talk about =) again good luck and congratulations!
To keep healthy during pregnancy you need to take prenatal vitamins (your doctor will advise you which ones), and eat healthy food. Keep away from cigarettes and alcohol. Also going swimming, and walking will keep you fit


Babies only ';eat'; breast milk or formula (if you choose not to breastfeed) for the first 6 months. After that they can eat mashed food and slowly you can introduce blended meats


To decide on a name, type ';baby names'; into google and go through them with your partner


You and your boyfriend will need to talk teach otherer and your parents/doctors about how to care for a baby, and many other things





Congratulations and good luck
hey


first of all come out of that ';wrong thing'; attitude... it happens. now that u have decided to stick on to it and bring junior into the world, it no longer remains the wrong thing. ur just moving to a higher level in life much before most of us thats it. enjoy each and every moment. hope ur folks are not being too harsh on u... anyway everything will settle down once junior is out into this beautiful world...


y dont u two consider getting married, thats if ur country's law permits marriage at this age... but this is a really heavy commitment so u both have to stick together to work it out well... u know wat i mean.


during ur pregnancy just eat right, healthy and do some light exercise. well ur exercise changes with each trimester. u surely need to get a doc's advice. stay away from fruits like pineapple %26amp; papaya, they impair the baby's development. relax and do things u enjoy and things that relax u, give u happiness. the happiness flowing in ur blood is essential for the fetal health.


how many months pregnant r u? enjoy it.


u can discuss about the duties of a mom and a dad with ur bf. u could get a book on parenting and read it together and give each other ur opinions. trust me, it does work...
1. if youre healthy the baby is healthy...dont eat REALLY fatty food and excercise...im not saying run a mile and whatnot....there are special excercises you can do while pregnant to stay healthy.


2. Baby food...pretty self explanitory...you cna also boil and mash carrots...peas....just dont feed the kid anything like pizza obviously haha


3. again...excercise...dont drink, smoke OBVIOUSLY


4. you need to discuss anything you are not sure of...i would say go see a coach about something like this as well...or if you're close with them and theyre not mad at you...youre parents...aunts uncles...anything adult that you trust (family) that has had a child. They can be a big help too.
i'm fifteen and pregnant. u may need to discuss what ur going to do when baby's born. whats going to happen? i mean, will he move in wif you or vice versa? my bf has moved in with us and it's fantastic since our families get on great and its all good.


make sure u don't drink or smoke, or eat unhealthy foods. i eat lots of fruits and veg and yogurt lol. yuuuum!


new born babies don really eat much besides breast milk.


for fun maybe discuss names and how you will decorate the baby's crib and room. (always fun!) deciding on a name is difficult. we r naming ours jayden, (just a name i like) Matt. Matt is my bf's choice of name. lol during ur pregnancy, maybe do stretches and take slow walks to stay healthy. relax too.


hope i helped and congrats!


good luck,


britts
I work with infants who are born to teenage mothers. I know that this is not what you want to hear, but I believe that it is the best thing for every one in the situation, adoption. There are millions of couples who are mature and have the resources to give your baby the best life possible. I have seen the joy of a couple who is not able to have children be able to adopt a baby. You are so young, and you have your whole life in front of you to finish your education before you start a family.





I would recommend staying very active while you are pregnant. Get as many fruits and vegetables in your diet. Stay away from tuna, it is high in mercury.





I would also recommend getting in touch with other teen moms who have made the brave decision to give their baby up for adoption. I know the love that you feel for the baby is so strong, but you should look past your feelings and think about what is best for this precious gift from God.