Friend of teenage mother seeking advice?

hi, my friend is very close to me. i claim her as my sister..


she has recently found out that she is pregnant and has often asked me for advice.


i have never had a pregnancy scare let alone being pregnant. i have never had the thought or fear of having to tell some one im pregnant.


but as her being so close to me i want to help her as much as i can.


so im trying to help her tell her boyfriend(the father) that she is pregnant.


is there any advice. like is there anything that could help the situation not be as nasty as she is predicting it? thank you for your help..Friend of teenage mother seeking advice?
You can't fix your friend's problems with the baby's father or protect her from the new problems that are coming her way. All you can do is stay her friend and help her with honesty and care.





You cannot make her problems go away but it is so much easier to face life with a friend by our side. So stick around and let her know you care. If things turn bad between her and this guy you'll need to be patient and selfless when she's hurt.





Good luck to both of you.Friend of teenage mother seeking advice?
Maybe she can go to him n b really sad or something. then he will lyk ask wats wrong. then she wud say, 'i dnt know how to tell u'


then he will say, tell me.


then she says, whatever happens, promise we will always b together


then he will say, wats going on, or yeah sure,


then she tells him


then, hopefully he reacts well


GOOD LUCK
Telling the father should NOT be that hard. She should be more worried about telling her parents, who I'm guessing are the people she expects to depend on in these coming months, and who may very well force her to get a job, move out, etc. The father can't be that surprised. After all, he *was* a part of the baby making process. :p





I would suggest she tell him she thinks she's pregnant, so that she doesn't scare him completely. Make him drive her to get a pregnancy test, and have her take it when he's around. That way it has a bit more time to sink in, and it won't hurt your friend to be certain.





Whatever you do, don't involve yourself so much (ie. telling her boyfriend for her) that later on you'll become her personal babysitter maid. Be her friend, not her guide. She was adult enough to make a baby, now she's not adult enough to take the actions associated with becoming pregnant as a teen? If your friend is afraid of the father's reaction, and won't even do that on her own, she's gonna have hell thrown at her nine months from now.
Just tell her she's not alone. She's lucky to have a good friend like you, because even if the dad leaves her, she won't be on her own.
Your friend needs to be open with him. He has to help her make the right decision.


If he's a really good guy, then he would understand that he should help and support his girlfriend with whatever decision she's willing to make. She should tell him that it's something she needs to tell him in person.


They should go somewhere together, like a coffee shop or something and while they're sitting down, make sure he's relaxed, and then she should just come out with it and say that she's pregnant and wants to make a decision on what to do with him.


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Just tell him their is nothing that will keep him from being nasty good luck!