To all you other girls who have horrible Mother in laws,NE advice!?!?

My MIL is the typical demon from hell. Obsessive compulsive, an emmotional bully to all of her children. My husband is afraid of her. I'm the only one who is not afraid of her. My husband, me, and my one year old baby girl is going to be staying at her 3 bedroom house for a week over Thanksgiving. That house will have 9 ppl in it. How do i not begin WW3? To all you other girls who have horrible Mother in laws,NE advice!?!?
Be psychologically prepared for that week beforehand. I mean if you already know you will be for one week there and you already know the way she is then just be prepared to deal with it for one week in the most smart manner possible. Don't let her be bossing you around, but at the same time do no be annoyed by everything she says (even if it really is annoying) and have a different attitude towards her. Not a ';ok as you wish you are are the boss'; attitude NOOOOOO, that's not the idea, the idea is to be in ';self-harmony'; regardless of her annoyances, and if one annoyance goes overboard put a ';red light'; in a serious yet very nice manner........... if both parties are hostile then there is no way to make things work, you already know she is like that so you have to be the smarter party in this case, who just doesn't care and is going to have a good time no matter what and no matter who; but hey without declaring war on anyone, that just doesn't fix anything and makes everything worse.





May be you can be the one in control of that week or who organizes what you guys will do that week.





However, if this was an extreme case in which your MIL is way too hostile and/or unfriendly, then I would not spend my week of vacations there. Vacations are supposed to be for relaxing. But, I am quite sure your MIL is not that bad, if she really was that bad you would not talk and you still do.





Hey, and just to dispell the myth, it depends on the person, MILs are not bad, it is just that you only hear about the ones that are bad not about the good ones.To all you other girls who have horrible Mother in laws,NE advice!?!?
JUST TRY TO IGNORE HER, ANYWAY YOU'LL JUST BE STAYING FOR ONLY ONE WEEK, BUT INCASE YOU ALWAYS STAY WITH HER FOR QUITE A LONG TIME, I DOUBT YOU COULD BE AS HORRIBLE AS HER. DONT SHARE TOO MUCH WORDS WITH HER, JUST PRETEND YOU'RE BUSY TAKING CARE OF YOUR BABY SOMEHOW DONT GET YOUR ATTENTION TO HER ORELSE YOU WOULD END UP MESS.
by putting up with her carp and keeping your mouth shut.





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you could get nasty and leave early. don't think that's an option, now is it.
You would be better off getting a motel room nearby and not staying with her. You can use any excuse - you can say the baby is not sleeping through the night, or teething, and the crying would keep up the other members of the family, for example. If you're on her ground, she is the boss and she can make your life miserable. If you stay in a motel and only go to her house to visit, you're in control of how much time you spend with her. If your husband is afraid of her and doesn't want to leave when you do, just take the baby and go and tell him to take a taxi to the motel when he's done visiting with his mother. Don't force him to go with you, don't make him choose between his mother and his wife - it's too cruel. The main thing is not to play her game. Let her say whatever she wants, smile sweetly and walk away from her, even if it's to the bathroom. You know she';s a ***** and I'm sure everyone else does too, so don't play into her hands by being bitchy to her. She'll be helpless if you smile no matter what she says. What I do also is to agree with my mother in law. If she tells me that I'm not a good mother, for example, I say, you're right, but I'm learning, and smile and smile. When you agree with someone, they have nowhere to go with their attempt to put you down.