Mother and Son. Needs advice, mother is clueless and what to do next?

my friend works two job and her son who is 17years old is very smart, but he is smoking w**d. She talks to him about that and he ignores her request. One day she came home and smell her apt of w. She called the officer that was passing by her apt. She asked if they can smell the apt and to confirm that it is w smell. The officer came inside her apt and her son ran in the bathroom and flush the w. however the w did not go down. So the officer went inside the bathroom and saw the w. my friend went into her son bag and found a zip lock full of w**d. She also showed the officer a summons that her son gets to go to court. On the summons the date for court was past. Therefore, he missed the date. So the mother said its her fault, because she thought it was for the 21st. The officer says, it doesn't matter because he is going to arrest her son for possession of drugs. Anyway he got arrested and was released the next day. he was not able to go home so the officer told he to go to a family member home. He went to a family member home and stayed for one day. the family member sat with him and talked to him about turning his life to God and respect his mother wishes. He turned to his family member and said, his mother does not love him and she used to leave him at home by himself since he was in the 3rd grade. The family member told him to return home and ask his mother forgiveness. So he did, but when his mother came home she was shock to see him inside of the apt. so they began to argued and she got a knife and he punched her on the face. so she called the police and they came to arrest him. She went to court to get order protection against her son. Now the son will be going to Rikers Island. The son lawyer said the judge will release him if someone will take him, but the family member said no. Now the mother is worried about him going to Rikers. What can she do? She need your help and advice. Hurry!!!





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Her son cannot move out. He is under 18.


7 hours ago





Going to jail will not solve it. Plus he has one more year in high school. He is very smart. what other option.


7 hours ago


Well she said she love him, because she bought him expensive name brand clothing.


Well the visiting part, writing is something the mother hopes not to do. She does not want him to go to jail, she is hoping he can be in a live in program.


7 hours ago





The son lies about mom pull out a knife , she only took out the knife to cut the AC wire.Mother and Son. Needs advice, mother is clueless and what to do next?
This type of problem is so common these days. When a parent(s) cannot raise their children because they have to work 2 jobs, can't or won't go get spiritual help, this is where stuff happens.





I would recommend the mother first look for Christian counseling, even if she does not know God, they will offer spiritual help.





Second, I would look for after school programs for the young man to attend. If he likes sports, he can maybe play or coach a team.





Third, and this is probably the most important, she should have a sit down dinner/lunch or something with her son and tell him she does love him (hopefully that's true) and explain the pressure she's under to keep things going for them (I'm sure he would understand, and may offer another solution).





Fourth, is there a way they can drastically reduce expenses (let him help in determining where to cut expenses) so she can have more time with her son, or make the weekends just for them.





She and he could greatly benefit from making the sacrifice and going to a Bible teaching church. Not just preaching, but teaching God's Word which would help them both have a better relationship.Mother and Son. Needs advice, mother is clueless and what to do next?
actually the mother may be able to request that he gets sent to rehab for his problems. Depends on the judge though. I'll pray for them.
You should be on the legal page not the fruitcake page.
No advice from me but am asking God who knows all things.
chuck them both in jail.
So she's worried about him going to jail after she's the one who turned him into the cops?





She's not a very good mother.





A good mother would not have involved the cops.


Expensive name brand clothes does not equal love. Why would she have to cut the A/C wire in the middle of an argument with her son?


This all sounds quite fishy and one sided.








Breaking a law does not equal sin. If so than everyone who goes one mile over the speed limit is sinning.