Mother and Son. Needs advice, mother is clueless and what to do next?

my friend works two job and her son who is 17years old is very smart, but he is smoking w**d. She talks to him about that and he ignores her request. One day she came home and smell her apt of w. She called the officer that was passing by her apt. She asked if they can smell the apt and to confirm that it is w smell. The officer came inside her apt and her son ran in the bathroom and flush the w. however the w did not go down. So the officer went inside the bathroom and saw the w. my friend went into her son bag and found a ziplock full of w**d. She also showed the officer a summons that her son gets to go to court. On the summons the date for court was past. Therefore, he missed the date. So the mother said its her fault, because she thought it was for the 21st. The officer says, it doesnt matter because he is going to arrest her son for possession of drugs. Anyway he got arrested and was released the next day. he was not able to go home so the officer told he to go to a family member home. He went to a family member home and stayed for one day. the family member sat with him and talked to him about turning his life to God and respect his mother wishes. He turned to his family member and said, his mother does not love him and she used to leave him at home by himself since he was in the 3rd grade. The family member told him to return home and ask his mother forgiveness. So he did, but when his mother came home she was shock to see him inside of the apt. so they began to argued and she got a knife and he punched her on the face. so she called the police and they came to arrest him. She went to court to get order protection against her son. Now the son will be going to Rikers Island. The son lawyer said the judge will release him if someone will take him, but the family member said no. Now the mother is worried about him going to Rikers. What can she do? She need your help and advice. Hurry!!!Mother and Son. Needs advice, mother is clueless and what to do next?
The family member is right in saying no!





Mom needs to let her son go to jail and understand there are consequences to his actions.





If she had not called the police, she would have enabled him to continue to smoke, break her rules and passively allow him to disrespect her.





I'm glad she put her foot down. It's called tough love and that's why she is worried right now, because it IS tough!


Mom did the right thing!Mother and Son. Needs advice, mother is clueless and what to do next?
let the kid go to jail .BUBBA in the shower will straighten his *** out
It sounds like the mother needs to seriously look inward.


If she really wanted to make a difference to her son she should be loving toward him, not judgemental. She should do everything she can to show her love by listening to him and not spouting out. Visit him if she can. If not, write him. Keep him up to date about her life and the improvements she has made and how she has changed her ways.





Why get a knife out? How would anyone react with a knife pulled on them? I'd punch them too because I'd be afraid of being stabbed. Protection against her son? What about his protection against his mother who pulled a knife on him? I'm sure the son feels terrible about having a order protection put out on him for trying to defend himself against a knife.
Turning your own son in to the police= not helpful, and not a solution.





She should just encourage him to move out and start living more independently. Then she also won't have to be worried about someone smoking weed in her house.