Will she know I'm her mother? Advice please?

When i first have my baby i am going to be living in my parents house. I have sisters my age who are around all the time and other family members and parents... pretty much there are constantly people here and they will want to be around the baby constantly and help out.


Which i welcome but i am concerned about how the baby will know that i am her mother. There will be people holding her and being around her just as much as i am? How will she have special connection to me or know Im her mother?





I suggested to my family that i will be the only one who bottle feeds her ( can't breast feed) and they said it was silly and the baby will know im her mother , but im not so sure.





What does everyone think? And what are some ways you can make that connection when there are so many other people around all the time?Will she know I'm her mother? Advice please?
don't worry,i have two children one is 7yrs one is 3 months,its really nothing to worry about.Is this your first baby?first of all you carry her in your stomach for 9 months so she already knows your voice,and to make yourself feel better talk to her all the time right from the start,i agree i would be the one to feed her as well bacause that is bonding time,also take naps with her sometimes, and prop her head on your arm and hold her close to you when you nap.you'll see she'll know who her mommy is,you already have a bond can't no-one break. CONGRADULATIONSWill she know I'm her mother? Advice please?
Hope it's not too personal, but how do you know already that you can't breastfeed?


Certainly, in the first few weeks, you could/should be the only one to feed baby. Co-sleeping will help. Babies actually learn who their mother is by their smell. A family member could put your smelly shirt over their own (not actually on, but drape themselves with it).
Ignore her: New mommy to A.J! Im so in love


She is probably like 40 years old having her first child and will be almost 60 when he/she is ready to graduate high school! LOL





Your baby already knows your voice. She also knows your smell. Just because other people will be around will not mean that your baby will not know that YOU are his/her mother.





Good luck and congrats on being a new mommy! It is the most precious gift you can ever get!


















The baby already knows you are its mother, from the time their ear drums develop inside you, they're hearing you voice when you speak, they learn in the womb to associate that sound to you, and when they're born, they automatically recognize your voice..





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Your baby will know! He or she will know by your voice, your smell, your face and many other things. Don't worry! Your baby will know! Congrats on the baby! Glad to hear that you have people to help you. Wish I had that. You'll be fine!
infamous summed it all up. If you want to just bottle feed her do, no one else has to help with that if you dont want them to. Stand your ground.
';I suggested to my family that i will be the only one who bottle feeds her ( can't breast feed) and they said it was silly';





Dont 'suggest' anything to them sweetheart, you tell them. youre her mother. If thats what you want to happen, then thats what is going to happen.





BUT, you will be making ALOT of hard work for yourself, I have a 6 week old and I'd love that kind of help!!





Yes, people may hold her but shes only ever been in your tummy and only you have that special 'mommy' smell!!! she will definatly know youre her mother :)





congrats!! xx






Your baby is aware of who you are from the time she develops her sense of awareness. Don't worry about your family taking care of her! When you are young and you have a baby you need all the help you can get! Just make sure to have some time everyday when you sit with her and have mommy baby bonding time! This will help her to bond with you since you are not breastfeeding! You will also want to do things with her that are mommy baby things, like reading a book or singing her to sleep. Other than that, dont worry about it! Your baby is aware of LOVE in all forms! She is going to need all the love from all of your family members and she will grow to know each of their roles as she matures. You will not be confused with anyone else, as long as you make sure to care for her and love her as a mother!



Try preparing a room where you and your baby can be alone together to bond, or take her for walks often around your block. The bond between baby and mommy is so strong - she will know who you are. But if you're concerned then your family and friends will have to respect your wishes and back off. If you want to be the only one to bottle feed her at first then that should not be a problem. It just kind of depends on how many extra people we're talking here. Say 10+ then definitely, I would make sure you make some alone time for you two, and be the PRIMARY caregiver. Everyone else will just have to deal with it.
The baby will be able to smell her mum.


As you are only there for a month this will be great to have help on hand so take all the help while you have it!


When she is born the first thing they do is lay the baby on you....that is her first experience of you in the outside world and she will know your scent from there.


Plus you will be doing her first few feeds before you get discharged.





Years ago it was standard in the UK for first time mums to stay in hospital for 10 days, and if a baby was bottle fed, the nurses did it so mum could get her rest, but I am sure those babies did麓nt leave hospital not knowing who their mums were.





So dont worry, you will have plenty of together time, and some great rest in between.





Good Luck
Babies know there mom's voice from even before they are born, since they can hear in the womb from around 26 weeks or so. I have a large family with lots of peeps around too, course i did breast feed my son, but as long as u do alotta the stuff with ur daughter then she will def. know ur her mother, even though she'll know anyways. And if u wanna be the only one to feed her then do that (Esp. when she's really young), don't let ur family tell u that's silly cuz it's not, feedin ur baby is a great bondin experience and she's ur baby and u should be able to make the decisions about what what u wanna do and not ur family. But don't worry ur baby will know who her mommy is, :D. Hope this helps, and good luck, :D.
First of you, your the Mommy now and if YOU want to be the only one to feed the baby then that is what you need to do. You have to start putting your foot down, if they think its silly then its their problem.


Also, babies and Mommies have a very special bond from the moment you hold the little one. But I can see where you are coming from, I have a VERY CONTROLLING mother-in-law who tried to over step her boundaries and made it seem as if she wanted my daughter to treat her like she was the mother! But I had to learn to put my foot down. Let them help you, trust me even with the best baby you will need the help! But if you think they are getting too involved or are getting too close for YOUR comfort, tell them to let you have some time ALONE with your baby!!