My mother has had a colostomy bag for the last 5 Years? Advice please!?

She's interested now in speaking to other people in the same situation. Has alsio been widowed for the last 5 years! She's finding it difficult to start any new relationships with what she describes as 'normal people'! Can anyone identify with this and maybe give a bit of reassurance to an absolutely stunning woman! My mother has had a colostomy bag for the last 5 Years? Advice please!?
There are several Ostomy Message boards and chats around the internet if your mum wants to get involved. Many of the people with ostomies on them have met and married the people of their dreams (bowel intact people) and gone on to have families of their own and chatting to them, even via a message board, may help her understand that most people aren't too shallow to reject someone with a bag (I say 'most' because you will always get the occasional idiot who can't see past it - but that's their loss, the vast majority of people don't have a problem with it, they understand that the person is alive and well and able to be with them - they just poop differently).





Good luck.





PS. Remember: ';normal'; is just a cycle on a washing machine.My mother has had a colostomy bag for the last 5 Years? Advice please!?
I think it's great that you are trying to help your mother but loving yourself comes from within. You described her as an absolutely stunning woman. Maybe she should get involved with a widow's group where you live if she hasn't gotten over her grief/mourning. Your mother should call her medical group and ask if there is a cancer support group. She will be able to find the support and encouragement from people who are going through the same thing.





I wish you both well.
Janet Elway has one. She could contact a support group or ask to speak to the ostomy nurse at a hospital if she wants to give talks. Maybe she'll meet a man that has one, too. Some people are just not very compassionate or understanding about these situations.
That would sure be helpful to her. I would call the local hospital. There be a support group for people in her situation. Maybe a retirement community would have a group too.
You're a good daughter. Have her go to Web MD...or Yahoo groups, and meet folks going through the same thing.
oh my i have no idea